Wedding Designer

My chosen career was as a wedding planner. As a matter of fact, I was a wedding planner for 10 years. Suddenly, I apparently changed fields. Nowadays, I am a wedding designer. Why? A better title means better money! You see, depending on how you can go about it, couples about to be married can be the most nerve-racking and unpleasant, or the most docile and lucrative clients there are. It all depends on whether you are practical (some would say unscrupulous) enough to lead them. That, after all, is what wedding planning is all about.

Don't get me wrong, wedding designers do a lot of work. Basically, almost every detail of planning a wedding is up to us. These details, however, are easy after you have done them a dozen times or so. You have a standby wedding checklist in your head, and you know instinctively what still needs to be done and what has been completed. Once you have a few wedding caterers, wedding supply dealers, and similar resources at your disposal, the whole thing is a breeze. The art doesn't come in picking out wedding colors and decorations, but in telling people who are too stressed out to think clearly exactly what they want to hear. For me, this has never been hard.

I work very closely with a wedding dress designer, and he has really taught me almost everything that I know. He was a wedding designer before he ever got involved specifically with bridal dresses. The way he explained it to me, being a wedding designer is like being any other kind of salesman. You have to find out what the customer wants and give it to them.

I am not talking about products, but about fantasies. When my wedding designer friend is putting together a bridal gown, for example, he has to find out what images the bride-to-be has of herself as a married woman. Somewhere in the back of her head, she might be a beautiful princes about to be swept off her feet by prince charming. She may, on the other hand, be the shy awkward girl finally blooming into her full womanhood. She might be confident, regal, and taking her rightful place in the world. Most people have very powerful and obvious fantasy lives that come to the forefront when you are helping them to plan their marriages. My job, as a wedding designer, is not only to help with the material details of the wedding, but also to flatter and feed those fantasies. People caught up in their imagination pay much better!