Am I Pregnant

Have you ever thought about the relationship you are building with your children? So often parents are so busy trying to provide a home, clothing and food for their children that they forget how important it is to take the time to get to know their children. They may know where they are and what they are doing, but they do not know what their dreams and fears are. As a family therapist I recommend regular relationship building time between each parent and each child.

As I mentioned I am a family therapist. At times this is a difficult and awkward position to be in as a parent. Many things that I say to my children cause them to become upset with me because they think I am using psychology on them. Also I feel my children are scrutinized more because of my position as a therapist. I have had people comment that my kids should be well adjusted and happy given my expertise. I am blessed with very close relationships with my children. I attribute this to taking the time to spend with them consistently. When my kids were teenagers we would have outing nights twice a month. On outing night I would take one of the children and we would spend time together. Sometimes we did something special but usually we just stopped and had a coke and talked. Now that my children are adults I have kept up doing these outings.

My daughter is married. We have always had a very close bond. The other day we met for coffee. She walked in a few minutes after me. She walked up to the table I had chosen and asked am I pregnant. I asked her what she meant. She rattled off a list of symptoms that she had been experiencing. After she was done with her list she asked again am I pregnant. I told her that there are so many reliable tests available over the counter that she should go and buy one and find out. She has been trying to get pregnant for close to two years, so she is much in tuned to her body. We went and bought one of the home pregnancy tests and took it to our family home. She went into the bathroom and came out immediately. She had left the test strip on the sink, she was too nervous to look. I went into the bathroom and shut the door. I no sooner had the door shut and she was repeatedly asking am I pregnant. I could see by the strip that the answer to her question was yes, she was pregnant. I opened the door and she could tell by the joy on my face that she was going to be having the first grandchild for the family.